Say NO! to CANCER Discrimination

WE ARE DOING THIS THING!

On behalf of myself and my children, I cannot thank you all enough!

We need to keep it going!

Please "like" the fan page that my dear friend from childhood Peter Kaufmann made for
my children and me:

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Alaina-Giordano-Should-Not-Lose-Her-Kids-Because-She-Has-Breast-Cancer/127024814041233

We must OVERTURN this ruling

for my children

and for all children.


If this ruling stands it will become precedent in this Judge's courtroom, which will more than allow her to use it as a reason to make the same sort of rulings in similar custody decisions.

Thank you for doing the right thing.

Alaina Giordano

Every Child Deserves Better

No kids? Never been married?

How does a woman with no kids and who has never been married become a Judge in Family Court???!!!

From some of the things that she wrote in the order, it is clear that she has no insight into motherhood, marriage or an intimate partner relationship.

Any parent knows that parenting requires on-the-job training. Just like, any married person knows that marriage is not a fairy tale and takes work and dedication even under the best circumstances.

Parenthood is hard. Anyone who says it is easy...well, isn't doing it right.

Parents learn from experience and trial-and-error. We can read books and research, many which give conflicting information, but at the end of the day it is not a one-size fits all method or process. Each child, each experience, each day we as parents must roll with the punches and be ready for the unexpected.

This judge is trying to use theory to make decisions upon which she has no practical experience.

This is very dangerous.

A Mother Would Know Better than to rip happy, well-adjusted children from their mother who has been their primary caregiver since conception and send them to a father who was a weekend dad at best.

Every Child Deserves Better Than a Judge With No Parenting Experience

No one knows when another person will die. Judges are not God.

The Judge says in the order (paraphrasing) that she is uncomfortable not knowing when I will die. This is part of her reasoning for removing the children from their home.


Did you know that 1 in 4 Americans have been diagnosed with asthma?

Did you know that 11 people die every day from asthma in the U.S.?


Clearly, the Judge is not following logic to determine this order. None of us has a crystal ball. This Judge wants to play God and is uncomfortable that she feels not in control in this situation.

I presented a solid case and had 9 witnesses testify on my behalf, besides myself. 6 of the 9 live in Durham or a 10 minute drive from where the children and I live. These wonderful people are a solid support system who love my children.

The Plaintiff could not get a single friend or relative (not even his mother) to testify in court for him. He did not present any evidence of a support system in the Chicago area. He could get hit by a car and my children would have no one to care for them in the Chicago area and would end up in Child Protective Services. Without a support system in Chicago, my children are at risk for neglect in their father's care.

This ruling must be overturned.

Any one of us is at risk of losing our children at the capricious whim of a judge.

I AM NOT CANCER

I AM NOT CANCER.

I am Alaina. I was diagnosed with cancer in December 2007. I am not cancer.

I am a mother of two remarkable children. I am not cancer.

I am a daughter to loving parents. I am not cancer.

I am a sister to two amazing women. I am not cancer.

I am a friend to so many wonderful people. I am not cancer.

Because I have a cancer diagnosis, I have spent the last sixteen months in court defending myself from the attacks of my abusive husband who filed a lawsuit against me in Durham County, NC asking for full, permanent custody of our two children using the argument that I have a cancer diagnosis. He then chose to move to the Chicago area to take a job at Sears Holdings, Inc. leaving our children in my sole physical custody since August 2010.

On Monday, April 25, 2011, the Judge ruled that our children must be uprooted from their home in Durham, NC where they have lived since July 18, 2008 to live with their father in the Chicago area on the basis that I have a cancer diagnosis.

I AM NOT CANCER.