I AM NOT CANCER.
I am Alaina. I was diagnosed with cancer in December 2007. I am not cancer.
I am a mother of two remarkable children. I am not cancer.
I am a daughter to loving parents. I am not cancer.
I am a sister to two amazing women. I am not cancer.
I am a friend to so many wonderful people. I am not cancer.
Because I have a cancer diagnosis, I have spent the last sixteen months in court defending myself from the attacks of my abusive husband who filed a lawsuit against me in Durham County, NC asking for full, permanent custody of our two children using the argument that I have a cancer diagnosis. He then chose to move to the Chicago area to take a job at Sears Holdings, Inc. leaving our children in my sole physical custody since August 2010.
On Monday, April 25, 2011, the Judge ruled that our children must be uprooted from their home in Durham, NC where they have lived since July 18, 2008 to live with their father in the Chicago area on the basis that I have a cancer diagnosis.
I AM NOT CANCER.
I absolutely cannot get this out of my mind. I can't wrap myself around how someone could do this. My mother was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer when I was five years old and lived until I was almost SIXTEEN. No, my childhood wasn't normal. But I wouldn't trade the time I got to spend with her for anything in the whole world. You and your family are constantly in my thoughts. There is so much hope, and I hope this all works out.
ReplyDeleteGabrielle Mooningam
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That is just wrong! You are in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteI am beyond sickened..... How DARE ANYONE take away this your children just because you have Breast Cancer??? Who the HELL does this judge think she is? Seriously, WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??? I am so sorry you are having to go through this.... I am praying for you and your children. I wish you all the luck and pray that you get your children back where they so obviously belong. This 'judge' should not be allowed to practise law and should have her robe stripped (no pun intended! lol) she calls herself a woman???
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry. You and your children will be in my prayers.
ReplyDelete"The Judge says in the order (paraphrasing) that she is uncomfortable not knowing when I will die. This is part of her reasoning for removing the children from their home...."
ReplyDeleteI am so mad about this. Cancer is NOT a death sentence.. My son is a 3 year stage 4 Burkitt's Lymphoma survivor.
It just kills me that some people are so narrow minded about recovery and remission.
I wish you the very best and pray your children stay with you!
Alaina- I have been going through the exact same thing for the past 3 years! Please email me, I think I may be able to help you!
ReplyDeletekristiskitchen@hotmail.com or kristina.bender@mines.sdsmt.edu
This is a picture of me and my youngest daughter, Maggie, who was taken from me 3 years ago by a judge who said I was "too sick" too...
ReplyDeleteThis is so wrong, I wish you all the best and that you win the fight for your children. It's completely appalling that your children could be taken away for that reason. You are NOT cancer. You deserve so much better than this.
ReplyDeleteI heard about this on, I think, GMA. I am appalled and honestly think this will be turned around. Too many people are outraged about this.
ReplyDeleteYou and your children are in my prayers. Justice will prevail...I feel it in my bones.
Meanwhile..hang in and God Bless, Alaina!
Alaina, I recommend that you add links to all the stories that you have been featured in, I saw people mention Time, Today Show, and I found you through the Change.org site, if these were all linked to here it would help a lot more people find you!! If you need help let me know. I'm the founder of MomsWithMS.org and I have asked all our members/followers to support you as well. Please let me know if I can help!!
ReplyDeletethank you for educating + improving the world
ReplyDeletethat this horror exists + should not continue.
i empathize with you + i'm so grateful you are championing this issue for those bullied into submission + despair by self absorbed spouses + legal system.
I am so sorry to hear this; it's heartbreaking. God bless you for fighting for your kids, especially during this really rough time. I wish you luck.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry, Alaina. Judges are not God but (unfortunately) they believe that they are and they believe that they have the same power and control of God. For some reason, they feel justified in making His children suffer. God will show them in His own way that only He is God and they are not. God will give you justice. I have children, too, and I have been treated more like a martyr and a criminal than a mother in my lifetime. I don't worry about me, any more. I worry about the ones who treated me that way. Because God sees everything they do. There is no corner of darkness for the wicked to conceal their deeds.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if you've seen this or tried it Alaina, don't know if it works beyond a certain point, but;
ReplyDeletehttp://hubpages.com/hub/Scientists_cure_cancer__but_no_one_takes_notice
Do you get your children back if you're cured?
I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you and your children...
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear about this. I wanted to private message you about something that may offer you support for your health, but I couldn't find any way to directly email you. Hearing your story made me angry.
ReplyDeleteHere it is, you may have heard of a woman named Renee Caisse, and the herbal tea she used to help people who were in the final stges of cancer. She was a nurse who lived in Cananda in the 1900's. It was brought to her from an Ojibawa native whom she helped. It was a combination of burdock root, slippery elm bark, sheep sorrel and turkish rhubarb. I can attest to the herbs efficacy, because my mother used it and her condition improved from lung cancer (in 1994). If the cancer is late stage it can still help. The formula is called Essiac.Renee Cassie was given the worst cases of cancer, those who were expected to die. She treated them with the tea and many not only improved, but went on to live into old age.
After getting well, my mom made Essiac for other. Currently my elder sister has metatesized pancreatic cancer and is using the essiac. She is begining chemo next week and will use the two together. Essiac is not a cure-all, but it does help with pain and supports the body.
There is a lot of info out there about it if you don't have it. You have many reasons to live, and much I would imagine that you want to do. The tea helps, and where I get it is inexpensive and easy to make. International herbs.com. They're in Doylestown PA.
May God bless you and heal you, and keep you and your family together!
Gina R.
Alaina, I just heard about your story and my heart goes out to you! I'm a mother of 4 who just got over cervical cancer. Fortunately, I was able to spend 2 weeks in a very special place - Optimum Health Institute in San Diego (Lemon Grove), CA where I learned how to detoxify my body from all the treatment and regain my health and strength. I urge you to find out everything you can about alternative, non-toxic treatments to build up your own immune system and regain your health. Doctors don't know everything and I am personally acquainted with a woman who healed herself from advanced breast cancer w/out surgery, chemo or radiation. (Check out www.natureswisdom.com) Cancer is our body's cry for help - an advanced condition from stress, environment & lack of nutrients for healing. As the previous poster mentions, Essiac tea is very good. Another very successful treatment is the Gerson Therapy by Max Gerson, mostly raw organic vegetable juices. During this time, stay away from sugar because it feeds cancer. My prayers are with you at this very difficult time.
ReplyDeleteSincerely, Lauren